Getting over a break up will be ten times harder if you are spending time alone with all of your sad/negative thoughts. So keep yourself in the company of others. When you spend time around others you give your brain a different stimulus to grasp onto.
You can also talk about your feelings openly and prepare to share your emotions with others. This can be hard to do considering you are in a very delicate state right now and your emotions can be affected very easily but it's important that you do not keep all of your feelings bottled inside. Find optimistic, trustworthy people to discuss your emotions with, you will feel better everytime you let yourself express the pain you have inside.
You should remove all painful reminders of “that person” from areas you will often come in contact with them. This does not mean you need to put everything in a box and give it back to them or throw the stuff away, this is just a step to help keep your mind free of "that person". Consider putting anything that remind you of “that person” in a 'safe place' until you are better prepared to deal with your heartache.
You should look into the new options you now have since the break up. You have more free time to hang out with your friends and family or to accomplish goals to improve your life and the lives of others. Think about the fact that you are now completely your own person.
You should know that your hobbies are a great way to free your mind of the emotional strain from your break up. They keep you active doing something you enjoy plus they challenge your mind and body.
Rather than sitting and pondering all the problems you are facing, take a 'glass-half-full' approach at the things you do and feel. Optimists view this glass half full, because there is still plenty left to enjoy; pessimists view the very same glass as half empty, because so much of it is gone already. We as humans we have the power to manage our feelings so if you decide to focus on feelings that make you happy, you will make progressive steps towards being a happy individual. This is a must. The more positive you tell yourself to be, the more positive you will be, simple as that.
Direct your sadness, anger, disbelief, or other emotions you are facing into a positive work effort. One of the great things about negative feelings is that they have the power to influence you at an equal level in the positive direction. Approach your duties with something to prove to yourself and the one who broke your heart. You will notice a strange surge of motivation when you direct your sadness in the right direction.
Remember the inner strength that we all hold. This strength seems to dim in our times of high vulnerability but it still exists. You have to know that you are number one and will always be number one. “That person” is just another person in the world, the same as you. Follow the attitude that you don't have any time to sit and waste on “that person” anymore. Create the proof to yourself that it is the opposite and “that person” doesn't control who you are. You are the master of your destination
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