There used to be this common phrase echoed throughout our lives, “TO ALWAYS BE READY TO FACE THE UNEXPECTED.” Surprising though in fact, when we consider that unexpected is something that we are totally unprepared for. How then can we face it?
I often wonder why did it have to happen like this? What if I had chosen to say to “NO”, would this sequence of events would have entailed so, in this manner.
This’s what I guess most of us do. When something out of the way happens, first is the emotion of disbelief. "No it’s not true", "Maybe I have seen it wrong" or "Maybe it was not meant to be for me".
Then is the next stage of shock. Or rather denial, why did it happen to me? Ironic fact is that, news is always easier to digest as long as we are not the victim. Somehow, good or bad, when it happens in the unexpected manner, we are bound to deny it first. Even if someone, said I won the lucky draw, I would first be in shock. And it would lead to me checking the numbers an ‘n’ number of times, fervently praying that I am not the victim of some prank.
And then finally, we accept the news. The trend which I have noticed, good or most often the bad, any news that comes out of the blue, takes us by surprise. Which is quite a genuine reaction, considering the fact that, the news was not an expected one. But what I feel is more important, is how we react to it, or rather how we deal with it, which influences the outcome of the “news”.
What I have seen, or rather experienced is that what is gone, is gone. What has happened has happened. I can’t change back the hands of time. When something happens, that I absolutely have no control over, it’s better to live through it and make the best of what I have got in my hands.
For someday, everything will make perfect sense. About why it happened so, was it worth it and more importantly, the answer to the question, "why me?". Till that moment arrives, for now, live the moments. Laugh whenever you can, through the confusion, the tears, and even the surprises. Smile for the pure joy of the moments. Not only for the sake of baring your teeth (though at times, that’s what is necessary), but smile from within for the pure happiness of the moments. And once in a while, keep reminding ourselves that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
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