BROKEN TRUST
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When you trust a person, you believe that they have your best interest at heart. They wouldn't do something to hurt you for the fun of it, or for selfish gain. You earn a person's trust by consistently proving yourself to them. You show them that you will not use them or take advantage of them. You will not abuse their love or their generosity. You will think of them before acting.


Re-earning a person's trust is done in the same way, except it take a much longer period of time. People are very different as to how easily they'll trust others -- some have been seriously hurt in the past and hesitate to trust again. Others are very "trusting," even of those who don't deserve their trust. No matter the individual, you earn and re-earn people's trusts through reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence consistency of character -- you prove that you are trustworthy by your deeds.


Broken trust can take years, even decades to repair. It's a very sensitive, and even awkward, time for the two people involved. If you are the person who has broken another's trust, you can only prove by your actions, words, and kept-promises that you are now on the "straight and narrow" and have no intention of straying again. Hard work, patience, perseverance, and consistent proof is the only way to regain the trust.
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LIFE MUST GO ON
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Past is past already..you can never change it unless time will come back again but we all know it is very impossible to happen. So the best thing to do is to make it correct if you're doing bad from your past and make the best of your life in the future without mess..being careful and sensitive enough with the surroundings so that everything will be okay. I would say i've done so many mistakes before and I can't change that, instead focus and learn to be good in the future..though I mess up sometimes but there's one thing nice about it..it is just that I learned from my mistakes. I will never know what I am doing if I don't encounter fault. It is just a part of my lives. So I must learn to move on and continue what I've been doing despite failures and circumstances...I would say, LIFE MUST GO ON.
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DO YOU KNOW YOUR FRIEND?
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I don't know. I am confused and asking myself, if you are deserving of my trust. After what had happened, I started have a doubt if I should trust you again. I know how good our friendship before but since that thing happened between us I became more aloof and it’s hard for me to give my 100% trust. I think even we become okay again as a friend our bonding and trust we have before will not be the same again. There were things that need to changed after what happened and it’s really hard for me to trust people around me. I am afraid to give my trust because they're who can ruin my life. I don't feel secured every time I think of those who I accept they are true friend but behind that they have bad intentions. I know we are not safe to have those kinds of people around us but we didn’t know who have good intention and a bad one. It's hard to choose a person to become our true friend..



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I AM SO SCARED..
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of death and the punishment
to come in the hereafter.

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YOU MUST CHOOSE!
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In a marriage, what are the limits for friendship with a member of the opposite sex? Who sets these limits? What is the difference between a friendship and an emotional affair? Is an emotional affair wrong? Does an emotional affair help the marriage by letting a partner vent out all emotional frustration, which otherwise he/she would not have done with his/her spouse? Or does it kill the marriage?

Most of us have friendships. Many of us are very close in some of our friendships. We share quite a lot in such friendships. But when one develops such a close friendship with a member of the opposite sex, it can be termed as an emotional affair. Sharing intimate emotional

details with someone of opposite sex is called an emotional affair. This the the common definition. It also includes the clause that you are keeping your partner unaware about the emotional bond you share with someone else.

It hurts a marriage if after knowing about the details shared, the spouse feels that mutual trust was violated. If the emotional affair becomes strong, it may so happen that one may begin sharing more emotional details with one’s friend than with one’s spouse. That hurts the spouse and may also lead to a break-up.

It has being debated whether an emotional affair is purely emotional or it has begun because of physical attraction. Does one need a friend of opposite sex to share emotional details? Why not one of your own sex? And why does one feel uncomfortable with one’s spouse about this bond? If one wants to have emotional sharing, or to vent out feelings, one can easily consult a psychiatrist which will help her feel relieved and get advice. Or one can chose a friend of the same sex.

One who is involved in an emotional affair needs to ask own self if this is only emotional? Why do I need this person to talk about everything? You must reflect. Talk it out with your spouse. Let your head control your heart for a moment and think about the marriage and the bond. This may help you to understand an emotional affair and help you to come out of it.
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EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON
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There used to be this common phrase echoed throughout our lives, “TO ALWAYS BE READY TO FACE THE UNEXPECTED.” Surprising though in fact, when we consider that unexpected is something that we are totally unprepared for. How then can we face it?

I often wonder why did it have to happen like this? What if I had chosen to say to “NO”, would this sequence of events would have entailed so, in this manner.

This’s what I guess most of us do. When something out of the way happens, first is the emotion of disbelief. "No it’s not true", "Maybe I have seen it wrong" or "Maybe it was not meant to be for me".

Then is the next stage of shock. Or rather denial, why did it happen to me? Ironic fact is that, news is always easier to digest as long as we are not the victim. Somehow, good or bad, when it happens in the unexpected manner, we are bound to deny it first. Even if someone, said I won the lucky draw, I would first be in shock. And it would lead to me checking the numbers an ‘n’ number of times, fervently praying that I am not the victim of some prank.

And then finally, we accept the news. The trend which I have noticed, good or most often the bad, any news that comes out of the blue, takes us by surprise. Which is quite a genuine reaction, considering the fact that, the news was not an expected one. But what I feel is more important, is how we react to it, or rather how we deal with it, which influences the outcome of the “news”.

What I have seen, or rather experienced is that what is gone, is gone. What has happened has happened. I can’t change back the hands of time. When something happens, that I absolutely have no control over, it’s better to live through it and make the best of what I have got in my hands.

For someday, everything will make perfect sense. About why it happened so, was it worth it and more importantly, the answer to the question, "why me?". Till that moment arrives, for now, live the moments. Laugh whenever you can, through the confusion, the tears, and even the surprises. Smile for the pure joy of the moments. Not only for the sake of baring your teeth (though at times, that’s what is necessary), but smile from within for the pure happiness of the moments. And once in a while, keep reminding ourselves that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

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GET OVER THE BROKEN HEART
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Getting over a break up will be ten times harder if you are spending time alone with all of your sad/negative thoughts. So keep yourself in the company of others. When you spend time around others you give your brain a different stimulus to grasp onto.

You can also talk about your feelings openly and prepare to share your emotions with others. This can be hard to do considering you are in a very delicate state right now and your emotions can be affected very easily but it's important that you do not keep all of your feelings bottled inside. Find optimistic, trustworthy people to discuss your emotions with, you will feel better everytime you let yourself express the pain you have inside.

You should remove all painful reminders of “that person” from areas you will often come in contact with them. This does not mean you need to put everything in a box and give it back to them or throw the stuff away, this is just a step to help keep your mind free of "that person". Consider putting anything that remind you of “that person” in a 'safe place' until you are better prepared to deal with your heartache.

You should look into the new options you now have since the break up. You have more free time to hang out with your friends and family or to accomplish goals to improve your life and the lives of others. Think about the fact that you are now completely your own person.

You should know that your hobbies are a great way to free your mind of the emotional strain from your break up. They keep you active doing something you enjoy plus they challenge your mind and body.

Rather than sitting and pondering all the problems you are facing, take a 'glass-half-full' approach at the things you do and feel. Optimists view this glass half full, because there is still plenty left to enjoy; pessimists view the very same glass as half empty, because so much of it is gone already. We as humans we have the power to manage our feelings so if you decide to focus on feelings that make you happy, you will make progressive steps towards being a happy individual. This is a must. The more positive you tell yourself to be, the more positive you will be, simple as that.

Direct your sadness, anger, disbelief, or other emotions you are facing into a positive work effort. One of the great things about negative feelings is that they have the power to influence you at an equal level in the positive direction. Approach your duties with something to prove to yourself and the one who broke your heart. You will notice a strange surge of motivation when you direct your sadness in the right direction.

Remember the inner strength that we all hold. This strength seems to dim in our times of high vulnerability but it still exists. You have to know that you are number one and will always be number one. “That person” is just another person in the world, the same as you. Follow the attitude that you don't have any time to sit and waste on “that person” anymore. Create the proof to yourself that it is the opposite and “that person” doesn't control who you are. You are the master of your destination

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