FORGIVENESS AND APOLOGIES
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Some people are just rude and run over people in their way. Sometimes they can be cruel or not caring. I usually get mad when things happen to me from someone I know.  I always hope I will never see them again. 
There are different degrees of what someone has done and something takes longer to forgive. Sure, apologies are nice. It’s always great when someone who has wronged you will come and tell you that they realize they were wrong and they are sorry. But that is not how it always happens. Sometimes we will be hurt and the person will never know that they hurt us. They won’t even realize that there is a need to apologize. Or maybe they do know that they hurt us but they are not going to come to us with that apology. We realize that we can’t control other people... but we can control ourselves. 
Usually for family I still forgive them but I do not deal with them or their family members during family functions. I might say ‘hi’ to them and then pretty much avoid them as much as possible. I don't tell anyone else in the family our business because it only makes the whole thing a lot bigger than it needs to be.  
When a friend does something to me that need forgiveness, I pretty much tell them straight out that they have done me wrong and if they still want to be friends, I would expect an apology or something to let me know that they are sorry. If they been a friend for a long time it’s a little harder to keep them from being friends without an apology.
However, sometimes my forgiveness does not depend on an apology from someone because I think my forgiveness is mine to give and one thing I always remember is ... "any time you forgive someone don't forget what they did. If you forget what they did to you then you will never forgive yourself for letting them do it again and they will if you forget." 


So remember it’s OK to forgive but it’s not OK to forget.



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