PRACTICE THESE IN YOUR LIFE
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Seize the Day.
Live each day as if it's your last and overall just do it! Today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present. Be present to enjoy the moment. Each day is a fresh start with options just waiting to be explored, so what are you waiting for?


Clear your mind.
Rituals of yoga, meditation and tai chi will replenish and rejuvenate your soul to focus more clearly on serenity and happiness.

Don’t hang onto the past!
Don’t stress out about the mistakes you’ve made - take them in stride and learn from them. From each mistake spawns a lesson. Do not worry about the past because it is gone, do not worry about the future because it is yet to come, live in today and embrace it!

Love yourself.
Focus on your inner and outer beauty to see the same in others. Acceptance comes from within. Don’t focus on the things you don’t like about yourself. Rather, find the things you love about yourself.

Love others.
Love the ones who treat you right. Give love without expecting it to be returned. Be selfless in your attitude towards others.

Accept everyone.
Be kind and courteous. Enjoy the company of others. Acknowledge their goodness rather than the differences in their beliefs. Do not judge others. Treat others as you would like to be treated.

Make friends.
Make true friends; friends around whom you can be yourself. Go more places with them so that you can share your joy with someone else. By being around people you will become a more understanding person.


Forgive yourself and others.
Release your negative energy that holds you back, your past failures, embrace whatever life offers you.

Be positive.
Focus on good thoughts and good things will happen. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Beating yourself up won’t help anything. Be positive. Say, think, and do positive things. Always look on the sunny side of life. Remember that the glass isn’t half empty, it’s half full.

Erase your negative thoughts.
Take actions towards resolving the root cause any bad thoughts (anger, fear, doubt, hate,...). Cancel each one out with a good thought called affirmations: "I'm over that." "I am brave!" "I know I can do it!" "I forgive and I do not hate!" You may not be feeling the best at the moment, but you will feel better once you think about good things. Think about all of the things life has to offer, because though things may be horrible at the moment -- the future holds a lot of hope. It should make you smile and not store negative feelings to be relived later.

Be honest with yourself and others, especially with yourself.
Dishonesty can lead to denial as you start to believe your own story, with that comes a curdling hidden stress that saps away energy and happiness. Self-acceptance is important, self-honesty with others keeps life simpler and makes it easier to avoid the people who just categorically don't like you for your views or some other thing about you. It builds trust when you're honest with others. It builds confidence when you're honest with yourself.

Be adventurous.
Explore, live on the edge a little, and embrace new challenges. Visit new places with your loved ones. Take the road less traveled. Don’t stick to the same old, same old. Life is more exciting with adventure!

Find purpose in life.
Find something that gives your life meaning, be it being a great friend, sibling, parent, grandparent, teacher, neighbor, etc. Once you have found something to live for, you’ll live better. If it's not your relationships as a central purpose, maybe it's your occupation or something that you do outside work that makes a difference to others. The meaning of your life is something you decide. Set goals and move toward them in small reasonable steps.


Give back.
Be selfless in service to others. Begin with your neighbor. Do charitable service outside of your immediate community as well. Giving back will not only make you better as a person, it will help others.

Be realistic.
Set attainable goals according to your abilities and talents. Consider each effort to be an attainment. Achieve one step before the other towards stability and security.

Seek balance.
Understand the night and day, back and forth, good and bad in all things.

Maintain control. 
Be responsible for your actions and inaction. Be true to yourself. Maintain a personal code in the situation at hand. Find common ground.

Be carefree.
Desires, obsessions and possessions possess you. Free yourself from your impulses. Make an active decision to have simple daily needs.

Laugh.
Laughter is the best medicine. It releases endorphins and promotes longevity. Inner joy is beautiful!

Be flexible.
Accept change as a positive thing in life. At times, go with the flow that is before you.

List a few daily goals.
Meet a new friend, swim at the lake or walk in the park. Enhance your day and initiate fun!

Make a bucket list.
Make a list of all the things you want to do before you die like learning an adventurous skill, making progress in work or sport, bungee jumping, sky diving, etc. Check off your list! This will make you feel like you've accomplished something.

Keep a journal.
Record your victories in life as well as your delights. Take time to reflect on what has been previously written. Be an inspiration to yourself and others.

Anticipate tomorrow.
Everyday is unique, like the blossoming clouds. It's never the same, but always beautiful. If things aren’t going right for you, remember that there is always tomorrow. Tomorrow, your life could change for the better.

Accept death.
Pondering death brings appreciation to life. Take time to appreciate the expanse and beauty of your life and our earth. Don’t fight death or live in fear of it. Let go peacefully.

Appreciate the little things.
Take a walk around your community to experience the wonder in a way that you have never experienced it before. Pretend that you are from a different country and you’re here for the first time. Go out with your family and take time to appreciate them. Take it all in and find the beauty it - it’s all around you, just open up your eyes and look!


Appreciate the environment.
Take a break occasionally and go for a walk. Assume that you have come from another planet. Take a fresh look at the clouds, the colors of sky at sunset and sunrise. Look at the plants, trees, leaves, and flowers and how they sway when wind blows. Look at water how it shakes and shapes itself in the vessel it's stored. Look at numerous forms of life - insects, animals, birds and humans. This exercise will clear off the dead memories and monotony that kills the joy of living.

Express Gratitude.
Recognize daily the things you are grateful for. Let your family, friends, and other significant ones know how grateful you are to have them. Share and express love while you can.

Inspire yourself. 
Do something that inspires you, be it finding a role model or simply reading an inspirational quote life is better once you’ve enlightened yourself!

Take nothing for granted.
Appreciate everything and everyone around you - your family, friends, house, pets, environment, and world. One day, you may wake up to find that one of those things is gone, so appreciate them while you have them.

Put things into perspective.
Remember that even though your life may seem tough right now, there is no doubt somebody out there going through something much worse.

Don’t let possessions rule your life.
Don’t let new electronics, clothes, or cars take over your life and who you are. Material possessions are only accessories to you and your life. You come first.

Don’t give up.
Do not accept defeat, even if it seems like it’s the only option. Look at the obstacles that others have overcome to be who they are and to fight for what they think is right. Translate that into your everyday life and use that mindset to accomplish simple things in life.

Follow your dreams.
Make a list of everything you’ve ever dreamed of doing and then make it happen. Dreams aren’t achieved by sitting around and waiting. They’re achieved by getting up and working for them! Work hard and make your dreams a reality! Work hard and play harder! You can always fulfill your dreams. If you really want something, find a way to achieve it!


Listen to your heart and soul.
Listen for advice, but be confident in making your own decision. Use your instinct. Don’t let others tell you what to do.

Maintain a strong foundation of beliefs.
However, be humble and respect others opinions (in truth). Stand up for what you believe in and don’t let others push you around. It's possible to do this and still be open to other people's ideas, as they may surprise you. Do not get caught up on little things. Know it when you're facing major conflicts and find creative ways to live with them - does it matter more that you disagree with a loved one or that you love them?


Be YOU.
Have the courage to be yourself. You are who you are! Even if society doesn’t like it, you are you, so forget what others think and live your life! Do what you want, because life is what you make it, and your life is yours! Nobody else is going to live your life, so it’s up to you!







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FRIENDS - CAME IN AND OUT OF MY LIFE
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I am trying to hold on to the fact that friends will come in and out of my life for a various reason. Some are meant to stay forever. Others are here only temporarily to teach me a valuable lesson or to help me through something. Maybe they were in my life to teach me and that lesson has been learned and our time together is simply over. I guess it is important for me to grieve and feel the pain fully. Then maybe I can move on to enhance another friendship or build entirely new friendships. But it is going to take some time to get used to this new empty place in my life that was once filled with their happy, smiling faces and all the good times we had.

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LET SOMEONE GO
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After spending what might seem like a lifetime with someone, you come to the realization that there are reasons that you have to let them go. There are in our lifetime, many reasons to let someone go, and for various reasons. It might have been caused by the death of a loved one, or perhaps the breakup of a relationship gone sour. Life as you have known it will no longer be the same. Letting go of a life as you have known it, and accepting the changes that come with it, is difficult and can at times, be quite painful. However each of us faces having to Let Someone Go at some time in our lifetime.

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LOSING SOMEONE WE LOVE
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Most of the time people enjoy long, long lives. Lots of people live well into their 70s or 80s, and some live even longer. Slowly, though, over the course of many years, the human body wears out, just like the tires on an old bicycle or the batteries in your favorite toy. When important parts of the body — like the heart or lungs or brain — wear out and stop working, the person most likely will die. When this happens, we say this person died of "old age."

Sometimes younger people die. Sometimes a person gets very sick, and despite all the hard work of doctors and medicines, nothing can keep this person's body working. If a very sick person dies, you may hear the adults around you say that person is better off now and no longer suffering. Still, every day doctors discover more ways to prevent and treat serious illness, so the chances of a person recovering improve all the time.

Other times people die suddenly, like in an accident. This may be the hardest kind of death for families and friends to deal with because it happens so fast. There is no time for them to get used to the idea of losing someone they love. The important thing to remember about this kind of death is it's often so sudden that the person who dies feels little or no pain. We can be relieved about that.

When someone we love dies, it hurts us. We feel sad that the person will no longer be around to talk to or to have fun with. That absence leaves a big hole in our lives. Maybe you cried — that's okay. We need to mourn, or grieve, over losing people and other things we love.

But just like when you skin your knee, the first, intense pain will go away after a while. It takes time for your knee to heal, but it hurts less and less each day. It's the same when somebody dies. That doesn't mean we forget or stop missing people who died. After a while, we can go back to our lives, still loving them and remembering them always.

Remembering people we love who have died is one way to keep them a part of us. Pictures help us do this. Looking at a photo album can help us remember fun times we had together.

When someone dies, you may start to wonder if the other people in your life will also die soon. You may ask yourself, "Will I die?" The best thing you can do is share these thoughts with your family. It may be difficult — maybe even a little painful — to talk about these things, but it can feel good to share your feelings. It's important to talk about any fears you may have instead of hiding them or pretending you aren't scared. The people who love you want to know you're having these feelings so they can help.

Did you know you can also help the grownups around you when they're sad that someone has died? Can you remember a funny story about the person who died? Or something nice that person did for you? Tell the good stories you remember out loud. They will make everyone feel a little better.

There are many things about death we do not know and may never know. We do know that it will happen, someday, to all of us. But you should not worry or wonder about it for very long. There are too many wonderful things to experience in the many, many years ahead.

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[Khairul Afiq Shahril (15 years old) and his sister, Nur Qairen Fathin Alesya Shahril (1 years old) - they died on Sunday, 30th October 2011 from a tragic car accident].

“To Allah We Belong and to Him is our Return. May Allah grant them Al-Firdaus. Dear Allah..grant their family patience and bring them by Your Might closer to you through this trial. Ameen".


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MISS SOMEONE
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We always wonder why do we miss someone. We keep on fighting with ourselves that what's the reason for missing that person? When you want to continue relationship with the person you keep on missing, you need to be clear with your intention. There might be you love that person, you like that person, you respect her/his qualities or that person is always with you when you need someone to lean on. Whatever may be the reason, it's very nice feeling to miss someone. You keep on thinking about that person whole day and night or if it's worst you might start imagining him/her near you. Many people feel that it's the worst feeling to miss someone but sometimes I feel it's the sweet pain and you can for sure enjoy missing someone. The only thing you need to remember is that you have to miss the golden moment you spend with each other. Please don't ever miss bad times you spend with that person. Always try to cherish the good moments and it will surely bring a smile on your face. Another thing which people do is to hide their feelings of that person they are missing. You must keep your ego aside and convey your feelings to that person. Life is too short; if you love or you miss someone do let them know. If that person understands you, it would never ruin your relationship.

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THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK!. CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY.
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Yes! I strongly feel that now one has to be increasingly aware of every word that he or she utters from his or her mouth. It is like shooting a bullet from the gun, which does not come back once it is shot from the gun. Words spoken without thinking can have damaging effect on anybody; who is at the receiving end of those spontaneous verbal volleys.

Just like clothes which reflect a person's status and background; language too is a very important indicator about the person's grooming and the character that he or she may have.That's why it becomes all the more important to choose your words carefully.

A great way of doing it would be to first ascertain the kind of audience you are speaking in front of. Educated and intellectual audiences would definitely not feel comfortable with rustic terms and might get put off by your comments.

Another great way of doing this is, to learn to be a good listener first; a method that i have been using in my communications for a long time now. If you listen to what others are saying first, it would be much easier for you to decide about the kind of communication you need to adopt for that particular discussion.

Jumping early into a discussion and speaking your mouth out might make you feel a bit out of place at times, if the other participants in the group feel offended about some of the comments.

Basically, the idea should be to let everyone speak and have their piece of minds right in front of all. Getting too enforcing about a point and proving your superiority can often result in misunderstandings being generated and the discussions being cut short and soon curtailed to a dead end without any healthy outcome.
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SINCERE SUPPLICATION FOR HIM
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[Hit his head against the steering wheel of his car. Had suffered serious head injuries - a scan revealed that blood had clogged his brain. Passed away - Friday- 29th of July 2011 - 2.55 p.m].

"O Allah, You are its Rubb; You created it; You guided it to Islam; You have taken its life back and You know best its insight and outer condition. We have come as intercessors, so forgive him"

"O Allah, he is in Your Protection and inside the surroundings of Your Refuge. Safeguard him from the trial of the grave and the punishment of the Hell. You keep Your Promise and You deserve to be praised. O Allah! Forgive him and be merciful to him. Indeed, You are the Forgiving, the Merciful"

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